Mars & Venus Relationship Counseling
Personal Counseling

Welcome to Therapy

Whether you are new to therapy or have had it before, I will customize your treatment based on your specific needs and issues. I appreciate you as a unique individual and take your past experiences and future goals into consideration.  At our first meeting, I will listen carefully and offer recommendations that we begin to work on right away.

My goals are for you to experience an enhanced sense of well-being, confidence in achieving your personal goals, increased mastery with your life skills, happiness, and inner peace.  I will use a variety of approaches and proven techniques that I have trained in and developed in my practice to assist with your progress.  I sincerely look forward to working with you. 

Mars & Venus Relationship Counseling

I support patients in learning to translate the words and feelings between themselves and the people in their lives to help them understand and accept each other.  Patients learn to communicate their needs, get past reactivity, and truly listen.

I have trained with world-renowned experts in mind, body, and spiritual philosophies and therapy modalities. I have trained extensively with Dr. John Gray, author of the Mars & Venus Books, and many other titles. 

It is with profound gratitude that I acknowledge Dr. John Gray.  His ground-breaking work on personal success and the Mars & Venus philosophy has enhanced my life personally and professionally.  His enthusiasm and sincere interest in healthy living and relationships continue to inspire and transform the lives of many people worldwide.  I opened the Mars & Venus Counseling Center in Hawaii on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 1997.  I am certified as a Mars & Venus Counselor and Facilitator. 

John Gray is the best-selling relationship author of all time and the most trusted voice in relationship advice today.  He is the author of over 27 books, including The New York Times #1 Best-Selling Book, Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus.  His books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages around the world.  For more than 45 years, he has conducted public and private seminars for thousands of participants.  He is a popular speaker and has appeared in numerous television shows and conferences.  Dr. Gray’s purpose is to create a world where women and men understand, respect, and appreciate their difference while learning to work together cooperatively and grow together in love.

He continually evolves his deep understanding of gender differences and provides a practical approach to creating optimal and healthy relationships based on mutual respect and competency with relationship skills.  His far-reaching comprehension of being human and the challenges of relating are described through his research and refined into practical action steps that can be easily applied to everyday life. 

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Words of Wisdom by Dr. John Gray

What Men & Women Need to Know to Have Healthy Relationships

Venus: Tell him you love him when he is upset … I love you.
Mars: Validate her feelings when she is upset.

Venus: Men need to feel cared for, but primarily they need to feel successful in fulfilling their partners.
Mars: Women love to care for their men, but primarily, they need to feel cared for themselves. 

Venus: Give him space to recover from the stress of his day.
Mars: Ask her specific questions about her day.

Venus:  A challenge for men is to support a woman when she is talking.
Mars: A challenge for women is to support a man when he isn’t talking. 

Mars & Venus Topics in Therapy 

  • Understanding the differences between men and women
  • How men and women deal with stress differently
  • Why don’t we speak the same language?
  • Why do men go to their “caves” and women go into the “well?”
  • Why is listening an advanced communication skill?
  • Why are there so many arguments?
  • Why is anger so destructive?
  • Why is empathy so important to women?
  • Why are men “Mr. Fix-it?”
  • Learning to forgive and heal the past
  • Learning about the Love Tanks
  • Dating: How to navigate the five stages
  • Mars & Venus in the bedroom
  • How to create lasting passion and intimacy
  • How to Start Over after a breakup or divorce


  • Mars & Venus counseling Approaches and Techniquest
  • Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT)
  • Solution-Focused Therapy
  • Guided Imagery
  • Creative Visualization
  • Deep Relaxation/ Sleep Rituals
  • Marriage and Family Therapy
  • Biofeedback
  • Energy Psychology
  • Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
  • Narrative Therapy
  • Transpersonal Psychology 
  • iRest Yoga Nidra Meditation

Integrated through individual, couple, and family sessions, groups, seminars, and workshops. 


  • Personal Development
  • Anger Management
  • Fear, Grief & Loss
  • Anxiety and Depression
  • Health and Well Being
  • The Hero’s (and Heroine’s) Journey (founded by Joseph Campbell, Ph.D.)
  • Career and Work Issues
  • Life Review
  • Healing the Past
  • Stress Management & Coping Skills
  • Developing Insight and Awareness
  • Meditation & Breathing
  • Relaxation & Sleep Training
  • Emotional Regulation
  • Interpersonal Communication Skill Training and Techniques
  • Goal Setting
  • Time Management
  • Lifestyle Assessment
  • Relationship/Marital Issues
  • Women’s Issues
  • Men’s Issues
  • Parenting
  • Family Issues
  • Codependency
  • Premarital and Dating Skills
  • Aging and Life Transitions

Themes to Explore in Therapy

  • Love & Partnership
  • Intimacy
  • Passion
  • Personal Mastery
  • Mindfulness
  • Creativity
  • Compassion
  • Empathy
  • Wisdom
  • Maturity
  • Discipline
  • Courage
  • Beliefs
  • Perception
  • Spirituality
  • Purpose
  • Choice
  • Emotional Regulation
  • Inner Child Healing
  • Love
  • Forgiveness